Something to remember: the search for the perfect partner must be a journey of self-improvement. Imagine if you found the perfect partner and she wasn’t interested in you because she was searching for the perfect man (Livingston, 2009).
If you are seeking out a great partner to share your life with, you need to look deep within yourself at your motivations and values.
- You need to be fairly comfortable with who you are and what you want in life as well as what you don’t want.
- If you have a lot of work to do before you are emotionally stable and are living in alignment with the hopes and dreams that you have for yourself, then forget about intimate relationships for now as they are more likely to be unhealthy and destructive than they are to be complimentary to you and your needs.
Often relationships are entered into as a short-term fix for unfulfilled desires to feel attractive and loved or to solve problems of security or status
So what work do you need to do on yourself? Start with the qualities that you find most attractive in someone else and then work at embodying these yourself. This will guide you to be your best and most authentic self because you are attracted to the qualities that you value.
Improving yourself, mentally
- If you are seeking to grow with love, then behave with love.
- Practice empathy in your day-to-day actions and friendships.
- Treat yourself with love: take care of your mind, body, and spirit.
- Diversify your interests to gain confidence. Ask yourself, what am I good at, and why? What can I apply this to in other areas of my life?
- A good relationship is warm, playful, and romantic. A bad relationship is controlling, needy, and insecure. How are you being? What kind of relationship will you make right now?
How do you check out? Are you ready to be double or can you continue to build your love muscles by being a practising single?
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- Gordon Livingston M.D. ‘How to Love’ 2009 Da Capo Press)
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